Only Unconditional Love

I’ve written about this topic before, and I think it bears repeating. Most of us strive to learn from each other. We all have skill sets that we are either strong or weak, and it helps to be around people who can elevate our potential. But sometimes, people push our buttons to the point that we don’t always know what to think. We use strategies based on information presented to us because that is factual information. We can rely on what we see. But sometimes situations arise in our lives where people test us. We struggle to find our footing in different circumstances because often, people will do the things that we question. We don’t always think that there are wise decisions, and even though we may love them, we often have to back away from that person.

Sometimes conditional love is the only alternative. We have to put conditions in place because we feel we are being taken advantage of in our lives. It’s hard to be unconditional when the world sets parameters on what we should and shouldn’t do in society. Maybe that’s why people who show unconditional love resonates so well with many. I can attest that bullying is something that too many people deal with in today’s world. Thank God social media was not around when I was growing up, but I think I probably would not still be here. Emotionally, experiences would zap my soul that life throws my way. Had it not been for the unconditional love of my family, I know I would have ended up hurt or dead. There is no doubt in my mind about this fact.

What are the best ways to show unconditional love when you don’t want to? For starters, listen to the person. Listening is a significant component that all of us need in our lives. We all need to feel like somebody cares.

The other thing you can do is to stop judging. If somebody is doing actions that you don’t approve of or think they’re on the wrong path, you don’t have a right to judge their actions. You can be concerned and let them know that you are there for them and you think they are going in the wrong direction but don’t judge them. I have found that when you judge somebody, all you’re going to do is make them want to keep going in the direction that they’re going. They will do it to spite you. They don’t realize at the time they’re spitting themselves—pride as a beast. 

You may need to get professional help involved. Listen, I’m one of the 1st people who will tell you therapy is a good thing. All the pride in the world will not remove somebody’s need to get things sorted out. And putting those pieces together when everything is mumbled and scattered in your brain can help bring clarity to the light. If you or somebody that you know and care about is going through the depths of a bad situation, I urge you to get help immediately. It might not be professional help. It might be a friend or a colleague that you can confide in, but talking about issues that hurt all of us only helps us deal with them in the long run.

These are only a few thoughts about what you can do, but I hope you will reach out if you’re going through a rough time. When you show unconditional love, it becomes easier to receive it. So when your kids or your loved ones are making you crazy and feel like you have an abundance of emotions, remember they need unconditional love as much as you do. Sometimes showing empathy goes a long way in helping someone heal. Have a great day, everyone.

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