Pushing Away What You Need

How many people in your life have you pushed away? How many places have you avoided going because they no longer fit what you thought you needed in your life? How often have you thought I don’t need it right now, so I won’t use it? It’s a little ironic that we keep pushing things in our lives away that we don’t think we need, and when we finally figure out that we need them, it’s too late.

When I was in school, I blew off a lot of classes because I didn’t think I needed to know what that information entailed. After all, it didn’t interest me. I pushed away people I should have gone to for help because they weren’t cool in my book. I blew off opportunities left and right for a long time because I wanted to party. At that point, I didn’t want to find myself in a position where others expected me to do well. When I went to college, I put going to church off because I didn’t think I needed it or God. I thought I was invincible. I struggled with my faith on so many levels. I didn’t believe that there was a God, nor did I think that what I did mattered. If I could go back in time and slap myself silly, I would.

People can say what they want about different places and places and other individuals, but the truth is that there all come times in our lives when we need people. We need the support of different places when we’re all floundering. You might not believe in God, and that’s fine if you don’t, but there has to be some support system for you for what you believe. If you think you can do everything in this world by yourself well, you might be able to, but the chances are that you’re going to need somebody’s help at some point. We might get into the mindset that we don’t need anybody’s help, but the truth is that every one of us has times when we need something.

It’s not always kids that push parents away. If we find ourselves fighting diseases, we might move those we care for most away because we don’t wish for them to see us suffer. Sometimes we live to regret those decisions because there are times when we push away, die or go away, and we don’t have a way to make things better. We find ourselves wishing that we had more time or could change our circumstances but by the time we have the opportunities to correct the damage, that window of time passes. Someone in my life has dealt with tons of physical pain. He pushes everyone away because he doesn’t want to be a burden to everyone else. He doesn’t comprehend that one day, people will get tired of putting their lives on hold to be there for him when he needs them. He’s made decisions for other people without allowing them to choose for themselves. One day, he’ll wake up, and his family will no longer be in the picture, and his dependence on those closest to him will no longer be as strong as it currently is because they love him unconditionally. But, there will come a day when they are no longer on this earth, and he will have a choice to make. Will he finally open himself up to those who love and care for him most, or will he continue to become a bitter older man?

My point is simple. Don’t take the people and places in your life that mean the most for granted. Sometimes the people and places we need are the ones we ignore until those options go away and we don’t have that lifeline. What’s important is to cherish every bit of time that we can and stop assuming that we will always have access to what we need. Have a great day, everyone.

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