Don’t Wait Until It’s Too Late

Cody Johnson has a single on the country music scene called “Until You Can’t.” The song talks about how you can put off doing things until a later time until you can’t because that person has no longer passed or the time itself is no longer relevant. He talks about how you could put a ring on somebody’s finger until you can’t because you waited too long. Or how if you don’t spend time with the people that mean the most to you before you know it, they could die in a flash, or something could happen where they cannot meet anymore. I know how that feels all too well. A man that I once loved with all my heart died a couple of years ago before I had a chance to make things right with him. We were from two different worlds, and yet somehow, we found our way to each other at a time when we were both lost. I made every excuse under the sun not to contact him. And then one day, after I had this gut feeling that I needed to call him, I texted him to see if he was OK and a friend of his responded that he had died.

I can’t take my actions back, but I can learn from them. I’ve had people whose friendships ended poorly, and things were left unsaid that we should have addressed, but neither party wanted to say anything to right it. Yes, we could pick up a phone or call each other and try to mend fences, but the damage happened, and it’s too late to take back now. And when the other party is unwilling to admit their faults, you can’t change another person or how they feel. All you can do is pick up the pieces and move on to the best of your ability.

I don’t know how I’m supposed to feel about specific issues. I’ve had people in my life die, and we didn’t finish our relationship issues. Some of those relationships were good, and others were not, but I know that I’ve had to learn to forgive myself for my part in bad situations. I believe there is such a thing as the afterlife, and I hope they have found peace.

The point I’m making is we all have things or people in our lives that we didn’t handle well. Some of you may be getting up the courage to do something or talk to someone you like and care for and keep chickening out. Some of you might be afraid to ask for that raise or promotion that you know you deserve, and when you don’t go after the things you want, chances are high you won’t get them. If there are people in your life that you love and you wish you could spend more time with them, please, I beg you to find a way to do it. If you keep coming up with reasons why you shouldn’t do something, you’ll never do it. Dreams and reality can only come to fruition if we have enough confidence to take the risks we need to take. Several of you are caretaking a loved one, and you know from experience how much that time means because you won’t get that time back when they’re gone. You need to be very proud of yourself and cherish every moment.

I could dwell on all the mistakes made in my life and the opportunities I missed because I didn’t have the confidence I needed to succeed, but I won’t. I’m not going to beat myself up over the fact that there are people in my life that I didn’t get to say goodbye to, but instead, I will learn from those experiences. As you go into the weekend, I hope you can take a little time with the people you love most. If you haven’t talked to someone you love and care for recently, at least pick up a phone and see how they’re doing. If you have a strained relationship with someone, you might reach out by a note or an email or a phone call or even a text and say, “I’m thinking of you, or I’m sorry things are so tense right now.”

I don’t want anyone to feel like they have lost their opportunities to have a relationship, succeed in their careers, relish the important moments, or do the things they want to do with anybody. Instead, I hope we all find ways to overcome our pride and do and deal with the emotions that we need to deal with to make our days and futures better. Have a great weekend, everyone.

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