Recently I was reminded that we all have layers. Someone said to me that everybody has those layers that once you pill them back, you find things that you never thought you’d know. As I thought about this, I realized this statement is true. The truth is that we’re all made up of so many different things. We all have various factors in our lives that make us who we are and what’s important to us. We all have emotional layers that not everyone else experiences at the same time. So many of us have trust issues because of instances that have happened in the past. Those layers of distrust and discord have shaped who we are and who we’re becoming. I remember watching the movie Blindside, where Leanne’s husband Sean said that Leanne was like an onion; you just had to peel back the layer.
But isn’t that true of all of us because we all have layers that make us who we are. Sometimes we’re so guarded because of life experiences, while other times, we’re open and accessible. Our experiences help define our actions. The relationships we encounter help add dimensions or take away layers to the feeling of comfort that we share with others. And one of the most exciting things about layers is that they are constantly adding or taking away to ourselves.
I think there was a time I would have argued about the layers that people have, but as of age, I’ve seen that everybody has different layers that contribute to their personality. But the cool thing about peeling back those layers is that we begin to see the world much more transparent than before because we’re taking away the blinders that have inhibited our growth.
When I think about peeling back the layers of an onion, I recognize that the components of the onion represent our beliefs, stories, and emotions. When we peel them back, those layers begin to shed and fall away. We’re not forcing or judging them as we’re peeling them back, but we’re giving ourselves time to figure out what’s going on. We’re opening our eyes to see the truth of what our actions and the actions of others do. And by peeling those things back, we’re able to grow more because we are more conscientious of our environment.
One of the things I struggle with at this point in my faith. I believe that there’s a God, and I think there are things that we’re all on this Earth to do, but sometimes it just feels strange when there are so many variations of beliefs and spirituality to learn. The conservative religious groups would want everybody to believe that if it’s in The Bible, they need to follow their teachings, and I think there is an element of truth to that to a degree. Still, the Bible has many interpretations because man wrote it. And there are so many different books in The Bible with various thought processes. Even if you do your research with other readers and viewpoints, you’re always going to find people who have varying opinions on what you have, and it’s not a bad thing because having fresh perspectives is a good thing, but yeah but you have to find what’s right for you. Sometimes that’s not so easy.
I read an article about this the other day, and they used a perfect analogy that I liked because they said to think of your mind like a projector. Anything in your mind, like your thoughts or beliefs, can be projected outward, and that’s how we see ourselves others in our lives. We’re seeing through the lens of that projector and not necessarily the truth of what something is. Our inner and outer worlds do change because so many things are constantly evolving. I know that many people talk about what they believe in that they don’t think, and it’s not always about faith. Sometimes it’s about relationships and your work environments and values and morals and ethics. But the truth is if you peel back the layers of their viewpoints, you might find you have more in common than you think.
So many of us are floundering on this Earth, and we’re trying to figure out who we are and who we will become. By doing that, we have to peel back our layers. We’re constantly changing and evolving, and that means as we pull back those layers, we find essential things at one point are no longer relevant. You know we all have a core. Our body language is part of our core, and there are several other components to who we are that can often be confusing. But I hope you take this time to recognize that even though you have lots of layers, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you are predictable by any means. All that means is that you have a lot of life experience. Recognizing those experiences is up to you. Maybe that’s why psychology is so attractive to so many people. They like to understand why people do the things they do, but the truth is we’re all different. And even though there are core principles that make up counseling in psychology that is very helpful, it doesn’t always mean that people will respond the way people think they will.
I’ve known women who I thought were going to get help for the issues they dealt with, and not only was that wrong, but I was dead wrong. These women had so many layers of abuse that instead of getting help, they fell victim to the involved scenarios. You couldn’t pull back the layers because they kept those layers so closely zipped are so closely dashed that they were untouchable. So when I look at things that have happened to the people I care about and even myself, I understand that people are not always willing to get the help they need. Sometimes getting counseling is one of the best things you can do to help you pull back those layers. Getting another opinion is never a bad thing.
As I leave you today, I want to leave you with a final thought. Make yourself aware of the layers that you carry. Often we don’t recognize what we’re projecting into the world, but it usually leaves more of a mark than we can understand. Be willing to take the chance. You never know what you might find as you peel those layers. You might even discover the whole new you along the process. Have a great day, everyone.