I read an article recently that spoke of people dying from a broken heart. I would not believe that was possible when I was younger, but the older I’ve gotten, the more my heart has broken and healed. Dealing with a broken heart is more common than any of us like to admit. There is a certain mindset of moving on and picking up the pieces when this event happens. Sometimes that’s easier said than done. When something happens that causes so much heartbreak, every fiber questions their next move. Sometimes the pain is so raw that thinking goes out the window, and emotions become the guide. The heart may want what it wants, but that doesn’t mean it gets what it wants. Maybe that’s why so many unrequited love stories exist, or how too many people lose loved ones, whether it’s death or the relationship ending.
I went onto the healthline.com website to see if I could pass along any experts’ tips to help heal a broken heart. Here are some of the suggestions they provide.
- Permit yourself to grieve. This item sounds like a cliché, but it’s true. When your heart breaks, you need time to process the pain. It’s okay to grieve, especially when the pain is deep. Let’s say that you discover your significant other had an affair with someone you know. Not only do you grieve for the person you had a relationship with, but the person you know may be part of that betrayal and hurt. There needs to be time to sort out your emotions and deal with the pain. If not, you will bottle things up inside, and that’s never a good thing.
- Take care of yourself. You are the only one that can do this part. You might need some mental health time away from work or a stressful environment. Maybe you could use some physical activity to take your anger, frustration, and aggression out to help you move forward. No matter what you do, please take care of yourself by listening to your body and emotional state.
- Lead the way in letting people know what you need. People are not mindreaders. Even those who have gone through similar circumstances may have great intentions but won’t know what you need unless you tell them. Communication becomes critical when you expect others to help you through the pain.
- Write down what you need (aka the ‘notecard method’). This technique works wonders for many people. When my mind becomes cluttered because of my emotional state, writing down helps me remember what I need to achieve or what I need in general.
- Go outdoors. Fresh air does wonders for people. It’s amazing how getting outdoors gives a person a fresh perspective and a new appreciation for the little things surrounding them.
- Read self-help books and listen to podcasts. Knowledge is power in dealing with a broken heart, and getting information on different areas is inspirational and influential.
- Try a feel-good activity. I’ve started getting into power walking not only to help lose weight but to take out aggression. It’s difficult for me to run with plantar fasciitis, but I love to walk, and it makes all the difference in the world. Plus, it keeps me from doing something I might regret later.
- Seek professional help. There is nothing wrong with getting professional support, especially when lost. Sometimes it takes a professional to help get us back on track. Even if you think you don’t need help, it might be worth seeking because life is precarious enough. Getting help sorting out our emotions can often unlock an inner peace that we thought we lost a long time ago.
I hope that none of you gets heartbroken for any reason. But the chances are high that it will happen at some point in your life. Remember, you aren’t alone and have resources to help you heal if that happens. The main thing is to find ways to heal so that you don’t die of a broken heart. Life isn’t easy, but there will always be challenging situations and people to navigate through. The key is to allow yourself to heal when you are in pain. Have a great day, everyone.