Confidence-A Necessary Skill

People can smell uneasiness a mile away. A person’s body language and actions can tell if they’re confident in what they present. If you are a person who has struggled with confidence throughout your life, then it can be challenging to rise to the occasion with an air of confidence and power. It can be cute when somebody’s flustering in a new relationship on speaking to another person, but it gets frustrating over time. It can also be frustrating when people you care about accuse you of something that you didn’t do, yet you don’t have the strength to fight back. Confidence is crucial in defending ourselves and standing up for what we know is right.

One of the biggest things I see around me is watching people who suffer from a lack of confidence. If you don’t believe me, look around you at different stores. Watch the people working in there as well as the customers. You can spot pretty easily the confident ones by their posture and actions. You can see the people who the world has beaten down. They are the ones who walk around like they don’t care anymore. That may be further from the truth at times, but it’s the impression that people leave behind.

How can a person learn how to have better confidence? One of the things I found in researching this was that there are several questions you need to ask. One of those questions is, do you love your job? You need to be brutally honest with yourself and determine whether you like your job or not because right now, the economy is volatile. Many companies say they’re hiring, but it’s not necessarily easy to get a job. I know some of you will disagree with me on that point; however, a classic case is from a CEO who did an undercover boss type of experiment. He applied to 60 jobs and only received one interview. That is terrifying to think about in today’s job market. We have such an influx of people needing people to work, and yet because of the way the algorithms are on Internet applications, many people are being excluded from consideration. After doing this myself by applying to numerous jobs and not hearing back, let me tell you it can do a significant set of damages to your psyche when you keep getting passed over. 

Another point made in my research was the suggestion to use visualization. I had never heard of a vision board until I watched a movie and talked about it. But it was such an excellent idea because you could take things you wanted to do, put them on a board, and have them come to life. Those tools gave a better perception of what a person could be thinking or what their goals to aspire to be could become.

The third tip that they mentioned was to practice empathy and positivity. I think many people could benefit from using that skill as far as empathy. In the days of COVID, I feel compassion has become something that’s becoming a lost art. That’s why it’s so important now to have positivity. There’s enough negativity out there in droves to frustrate individuals.

The fourth tip was to accept compliments. This statement is true if you get compliments. I don’t know about most of you, but I usually hear nothing but negativity instead of compliments. Most people have forgotten how to compliment others because they feel overwhelmed with their everyday lives and don’t want to acknowledge when somebody’s doing a good thing for them. It gets frustrating overall to look at the world through a good set of lenses when it seems like everybody has an issue.

The fifth tip is to be savvy about social media. I think this is a lesson many people could learn from in their lives. I still struggle with it sometimes because social media can be a weapon. People can use it for good, or they can use it to tear down and hurt people. I’ve been on the receiving end of it a lot. I’ve retaliated a few times and used it. It wasn’t always my most brilliant move, but I own it. Unlike others who love to preach about religious phrases and phrases and context, I’m not afraid to admit when I’m wrong. I don’t have to live in the world as somebody who thinks they’re better than everybody else because I am far from it. If anything, I feel like I make mistakes a lot, and I’m willing to keep plowing my way through life. 

The last tip I will make on this is to do things that make you uncomfortable.  I once thought that this was a crazy idea. But the older I’ve gotten, the more I’ve recognized that if I get out of my comfort zone, I gain more confidence in what I can and can’t do. If I walk into a room with the mindset of, “I’ve got this,” I can, most of the time, I can achieve the goals I’m trying to achieve. Sure I didn’t follow my face every once in a while. But I can also succeed. And when I grow, that is a fantastic feeling.

When you start feeling like the world is against you, take a look at how things are, and you might be surprised. We all have those moments in time when we wish we could have done things a little differently and increased our confidence level, but what we bring to the table determines our confidence and success at the end of the day. As you go into the weekend, remember there will always be people who want to see you fail. Don’t stress about them. If they are so fixated on ruining your life, they weren’t friends in the first place. At the moment, there are some folks that I will deal with professionally. They made me feel inferior for a while. But that was because I let them without realizing what I was doing. Now that I’ve educated myself enough to know the differences in behavior, I know what to stand up for and whatnot. And that’s a powerful feeling. Because when we all get our confidence boosted up, there is nothing we can’t achieve. Have a great weekend, everyone.

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