What if? No Regrets

There have been so many times in my life where I have questioned what if. What if I never got married? What if I’d taken better career paths? What if I had a different set of friends? What if I had figured out dad’s cancer ahead of time and could help him find treatment? What if I was working overseas and left everything and everyone behind? What if I’d never had fear? What if I had told the person I wanted to be with how I felt all along instead of putting things down in writing or having attempted conversations only to run away? What if I’d believed in myself all those years ago? Instead of accepting failure, learned to use those failures as success?

Listen, we can all “what if” ourselves to death. There are reasons that all of us do things well in life and excuses that we all struggle with within our lives. We have to find ways of doing things to make us happy. Life isn’t necessarily about what if’s. It’s about forging forward and not dwelling on our mistakes from the past. We can use those mistakes and lessons to propel us into a better future.

If you ask yourself what if all the time, then ask yourself, “what if” you do certain things that could produce a better result. What I mean by that is asking ourselves what isn’t always bad. Suppose we’re creating a new business or building upon a company using the what-if examples can be very beneficial. Those questions can formulate all kinds of ideas about how a business can grow and prosper. People can use it to try to prevent roadblocks from occurring.

Think of things as developers do. Anytime a project is in development; they plan out what they want. There’s a detailed roadmap that each developer uses to create the ideal project. The neighborhood that I live in used to be very deserted. Now it is overflowing with single-family homes. So what were some of the things those developers did that help us prevent mistakes?

For one thing, they learned to establish their boundaries. They focused on what they wanted to achieve and used the what-if questions to look at ideas and opportunities for growth. They looked at neighborhoods that could use different things and determined the best resources. They looked at local parks to see if there was an area for young children to play or people to go out and enjoy hiking trails. They use the what-if to use in a creative mindset. 

They recognize the patterns within the neighborhood. It’s a predominantly college town that I live in, and those students contribute to many businesses. With that information in mind, the developers wanted to make it a place to grow as the community grew. They recognize students from the University may not stick around that area, but they can put their dollars in the community, so they needed to make sure that there were places for people to stay.

If you’ve got a very overactive mind like I do then you have to recognize there are times where you have to help harness your mindset. It’s easy to switch gears and continuously think about the past or the future but you need things to keep you grounded in the present. This may mean that you need If you’ve got a very overactive mind as I do, then you have to recognize there are times where you have to help harness your mindset. It’s easy to switch gears and continuously think about the past or the future, but you need things to keep you grounded in the present. This action may mean that you need to establish anchors or something that can hold you in place with your mind to stop overthinking. You can get frustrated with yourself if you allow yourself to go into the past or the future continuously, so change your mindset altogether. That means being grateful for the things you have or the things that you feel because those emotions can be beneficial in the long run. Because when we’re happy and positive, we tend to find better ideas within ourselves. We’re not allowed to deal with any negativity when we’re in that kind of mindset, and that’s a good thing. So the next time you get into the what-if mindset, remember you don’t have to stay there. Use that mindset to your advantage to make projects better for yourself in the long run. Have a great day, everyone. 

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