Uncomfortable Conversations

I am the type of person that doesn’t like confrontation. I wouldn’t say I like getting into an argument with people and don’t like to be the villain. However, when I notice that there are issues not being addressed, I’m forced to bring awareness to those issues. At work, some scenarios need further attention. Some of my bosses don’t enjoy confrontation either, so they leave the problems alone. This lack of action causes issues in the long run.

I’m not particularly eager to engage in a confrontation in my relationships because I don’t want to hurt my friend’s feelings. However, I have found myself, on many occasions, having to be the bad guy. Sometimes tough love is harder on you than it is on the other person.

There are several places in my life where I have to deal with uncomfortable situations and conversations. I see brewing in different places and am trying my best to bring awareness to others. What’s difficult is that I’m telling some truths that people don’t want to hear. Some of those folks feel that I’m just spewing off statements. Yet, I know in my heart that these issues need addressing; the places the ideal with regularly will not make it in the future.

This world has changed dramatically over the last decade. What was important to the older generations is no longer necessary to the millennials and those who have come after them. They are of the mindset that they want things now and on-demand. Patience is not a word they generally want to use.

One of the places I work with on a volunteer basis has a massive problem with communication. They don’t want to fix the issues at hand because it’s uncomfortable. Anything that you say is used against you in a way that you never thought that it would be. No matter how we look at things, the language we use in communication is vital to a successful venue. Let’s say you are dealing with a company that has been around for a very long time. Their mantra has been, “if it’s not broke, don’t worry about fixing it.” And that served its purpose for quite a while; however, times have changed. Millennials have different priorities than the Gen-Xers or any of the other groups that are around today. What’s important to one group of folks is not crucial to another. If those groups do not meet the needs and desires of other groups, they will eventually become obsolete. This skill should be a common-sense approach. However, most places don’t always use common sense.

This item brings me to some tips that may help you because I’ve had to refer to them to get some help for me. The 1st thing you have to remember is that before you engage in any conversation with someone, stay calm. People are looking for reasons to get snappish. You could fall right into their hands if you weren’t willing to do the things you need to do to stay calm.

The next thing that you need to do is to keep an open mind. This task might be easier said than done. There have been many times where people took 1 or 2 words that someone said and made it into this big dramatic scene when that had nothing to do with your point. Please keep an open mind to other people and their viewpoints.

The next thing to consider is to stay, listen and respond. SLR. When someone is willing to tell you something that you feel uncomfortable with, that doesn’t mean that it’s a signal to cut things off. If anything, you need to listen, keep yourself engaged in what they’re saying, and respond. You don’t need to be a hothead. What you do need is to be willing to set your emotions to the side, listen to what they’re saying, And then you can respond. Not everything is a fight. Nor is it intended to tear you down or anyone else down. But the truth is most of us don’t realize what we have said or how it comes across to other people until it’s too late.

Another point is to turn down the self-talk. Most of us know what it’s like to be in an uncomfortable conversation while listening to your internal dialog instead of somebody else. This task goes back to the above statement. When we look at what somebody else is doing or what isn’t happening, we tend to be critical. Is that criticism legit? If it’s not then, we need to determine why we are having issues. If it is legit, we need to determine what needs fixing. Conversations need to begin with the right people and not a gossip Box.

This item brings me to the next issue. Be clear about what you see as the problem. I cannot stress this enough. So everybody wants solutions to the issues that they haven’t determined what the actual problem is. Most of the time, people are looking to shift the blame on something or someone. If you are not trying to solve problems with intention, then the issues will never get fixed. What are your goals and objectives? How long do you have to fix the problem? These are the kinds of questions that need answering.

The final point I’m going to mention is to develop conflict resolution skills. This task has become imperative in today’s world. Too many people are emotional about too many issues. We have to be politically correct about everything. Being politically correct and mindful of how things come across is one thing, but when you cannot get the point across without everyone getting upset over little things, the big things will take forever to address.

These are just some of the points that I have found that have helped me and I hope they help you. I truly hope that you’re able to get the uncomfortable conversations handled with care and with resolutions. These are just some of the points that I have found that have helped me, and I hope they help you. I genuinely hope that you’re able to get the uncomfortable conversations handled with care and with resolutions. Don’t let everyone else make you feel that your opinions and voices don’t matter. Be mindful of how you express those opinions. Be the voice for those who might not speak up. But also be respectful. There are so many issues in the world right now that need uncomfortable conversations. We have to be willing to listen to each side. I hope you all have a great day.

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