My mind gets so many thoughts in a day that it’s scary. I’ve made no secret of the fact that I have ADHD. Nor have I made it a secret that my mind is like a movie theatre. It constantly has pictures running in my head. The downside is that I usually have so many things on my mind that it’s hard for me to pull them out one by 1. I have many issues I store in the back of my mind. Sometimes I do well with this while others struggle. Lately, I’m working on a course that I’m taking and data analysis. There is a lot of information with extensive reading, watching, and applications to complete the course.
I’m the type of person who likes challenges, so this course has elevated my challenge level by about 70%. It isn’t easy to understand some of the material because it delves into programs I’ve never used before, and learning the language has been interesting. But isn’t that the way it goes for anything foreign to us? If we excel in everything in our lives, then there’s no room for improvement. This problem is why it’s so important never to settle.
Perhaps you have family issues delving into the back of your mind. Or maybe your job has changed, and you have projects in the back of your mind that need completing with no end in sight. No matter what may exist in your mind, you can address those issues. It’s not healthy to leave things compounded and not deal with them.
For example, if you have a friend who is going through a very rough time and want to help them, what is the biggest thing you can do to help them with their problems? Chances are, listening is a good start. Most of us don’t know how to help solve a problem if we don’t fully comprehend the issue. If you’re the type of person that likes to post things on social media all the time because you need positive affirmation, then you may find that you’re not getting the support you need.
We may have problems lying in the back of our minds that we’ve suppressed because we don’t want to deal with the truth. Maybe others are making us feel that we are not worth the time of day. If that’s how somebody is making you think, you need to step away from them. If they can’t respect your contributions to a friendship, a relationship, a job, or any other area in your life, you may face a very toxic situation. You have to decide what you can handle and what you can’t because you know your stress level better than anyone else.
So how can you de-stress from the things in the back of your mind? I found a few suggestions that have helped me a lot, and I hope they help you as well.
- Take slow, deep breaths. Or try other breathing exercises for relaxation. I struggle to do this because I don’t always focus the way I should. I remind myself frequently to slow down because living with ADHD has taught me that I tend to think in fast modes. I read fast and don’t comprehend everything because I group information. I’ve had to learn to take a little time to stop, take some breaths, and be in the moment.
- Soak in a warm bath or hot shower. Some of you aren’t bath folks, and others aren’t showering people. Choose the best source for you to use the warm or hot water to recharge and invigorate you. If you are the type of person that loves a warm bubble bath, go for it. The bubbles will help relax you. If you love a hot shower, let the hot water work on your muscles. Either way, it’s a great way to set your day or evening apart from stressful times.
- Listen to soothing music. What’s soothing to one person may be horrible for someone else. I like all genres of music, but when I need to relax, I go for more mellow music. If I want to rock out, I have a piece that helps me get into that mindset. After all, classic rock is one genre that helps me deal with life and those who push every button I have. The best part is that there is music for everyone that speaks to them when they are struggling. Use the music you love to help you deal with the issues in the back of your mind.
- Practice mindful meditation. I’m still working on this item. Sitting still and quietly takes a lot of effort on my part. That doesn’t mean that I can’t do it. It just means that I’m not the type of person who meditates a lot. I have to force myself to make time for this activity.
- Write. This topic helps me immensely. Writing is cathartic for me. It helps me sort out my mind. I can write things down and start to use those topics as checklists. If something bothers me, I can get it on paper to know I’m accountable for those worries. If you love to write, you might use this tool as a way to deal with issues that you’ve put on the back burner.
- Use guided imagery. This topic reminds me of my childhood. Instructors often used imagery to test my imagination. In counseling circles, imagery can help identify the emotions that people are feeling. We used imagery tools in the sexual assault center I volunteered with years ago. It’s a way for children and adults to express themselves without the fear of judgment. There are many uses for imagery. The main thing is to use the imagery the way you feel necessary.
As you deal with the issues at the back of your mind, remember that you aren’t alone. Many people are dealing with stress and anxieties. Those are multiple sources available, and not everything costs an outrageous fortune. Do your research and ask questions. Don’t worry about dealing with all the issues at once. Every day we struggle is another day we are learning how to keep moving forward. Life may be a climb, but it doesn’t mean that we will never get to where we want to go. It means that we have to learn where to put our footing and gain the strength to keep pulling ourselves up. Have a great day, everyone.