Someone recently asked me if I could be anything I wanted to be, what would it be? I had to think about that question because several things popped into my mind. For instance, I could wish to be a mind reader, but that would take the fun out of surprises. I could want to be an extremely successful entrepreneur, but with success comes the high cost of giving up essential things in your life. I watched too many young people I went to high school with who were unable to have close relationships with their families because business was at the cornerstone of their lives. As I pondered this question, I recognized that I kept coming up with what I didn’t want versus what I did.
I realized that if I could be anything I wanted to be, it would be more confident. When something I want to achieve is possible, very little keeps me from going after those dreams. Emotions are a tricky beast. Psyching ourselves up for challenges can be very challenging. Many gurus will tell you it’s all in your mind, and that is true. They don’t tell you how to make yourself believe that you can do anything as long as you want it bad enough. Each of us has the inner buttons that we have to push to give ourselves the drive and determination.
I started researching different positive energy sessions with inspiring lecturers. Over the years, I’ve found the most inspiring folks are the ones we relate to the most. I tend to say what I think a lot, and I’m not too fond of sugar coating things. I’ve mentioned Simone Biles in previous blogs, and while I know I would never achieve the status she has, it’s been refreshing to see this young woman propel gymnastics and create a breath of fresh air into the sport. When I was younger, I was a gymnast. I know the rigors these young girls endure. What looks so flawless in the competition takes a ton of practice to hone those skills. Gymnasts and other athletes can focus on the obstacle they overcome. I quit because I could never master the back handspring. I could fly through the parallel bars but couldn’t get the confidence needed for the tumbling passes. The irony is that the girl who spotted me told me I was doing it without help, yet I didn’t have the confidence to believe I could get to that level. That was on me.
Later, I fell in love with basketball and did pretty well. Then when I got to high school, the other girls on the team kicked my butt. Again, I choked. I let the actions of the other girls determine my happiness. I had to learn to get over how others made me feel and take control of my life. Otherwise, doubt would forever link me.
While I don’t mean to dwell on any of the insecurities, I hope that people see many who fight insecure emotions daily. We all have struggles in our lives. For the first time in years, I’m flourishing. I’ve got an excellent job, great friends, a roof over my head, and a strong relationship with God and family. I’ve learned that life isn’t always easy, but we are faced with challenges and grow in how we meet those challenging issues.
I struggle with self-esteem because of past events. It’s easy to tell people to shake it off, but it can be difficult if you allow those demons to attack. I noticed that my mood would reflect through the people I associated with because those folks struggled as much as I was. We shared similar stories. It hit me like a ton of bricks after listening to positive energy speakers that I was surrounding myself with people who had little ambition, talked a good game but didn’t put forth the effort, and didn’t push themselves for more. That was a wake-up call.
After some self-reflection, I shifted my focus to how to be a better version of myself. I’m still a work in progress, but at least I’m not afraid to initiate conversations or allow fear to keep me from pursuing my dreams. Instead, I’ve begun to recognize what it takes to create the destiny I want and make it a reality. No matter what happens in the future, I’m focused, driven, and determined not to let the past prevent me from having the future I crave.
If you find that your past is holding you back, you may want to look at yourself and determine what you want. You are the only person that can answer that question. I hope that you recognize your worth and keep pushing for your dreams. I’ve said it many times, but all of us are people of value. The people who think they are better than everyone else are generally the same people who are the most unhappy. They haven’t learned what real love consists of and live in a world of power and money. Power and money are only part of this world. The way we treat one another holds the most vital power because when we treat others with love, the message spreads like wildfire. So today, when you find yourself facing challenging situations, remember that no one has power over how you handle issues but you. Keep smiling, learning, and showing the world how unique you are. Have a great day, everyone.