It’s Monday, and my sweet persona is quickly evaporating into my professional mindset. I had a three-day holiday break for Easter, and it helped rejuvenate my batteries. I engaged with lots of folks from my church and friends that I haven’t seen in a while. Yes, we all did the social distance requirements, and no, I don’t give a rat’s butt who has an issue with it because we were all as safe as we could be without staying home. I’ve had enough of the house. If that offends folks, sorry, but I’m not sorry for living my life as well as I can under the circumstances.
People wonder why I get cynical. It’s easy. I’m not too fond of drama, and everywhere I have turned lately, there’s been some drama to be dealt with on the news and through people gossiping. The actions of others are making me come across as sassy. I know I can be a spitfire. Hell, no one has to tell me this information. I quip off remarks at the drop of a hat and don’t always feel bad about it because at least I’m standing up for what I believe in instead of being a doormat. I’ve got experience with being a doormat. It isn’t fun when everyone walks all over you. Sooner or later, you get tired of the mess everyone else leaves behind, and you either change the mat or clean it. In my case, I chose both.
Sometimes you need a change. You may be seeing your circle of friends as being less challenging than others you know. You might see a career change in your future or perhaps a change in relationships. Hell, you might even see yourself moving from one end of the world to another. No matter what you choose, it would be best if you decided what will make you happiest.
I love to travel but am acutely aware that it’s probably not going to continue to be in the cards for me. I thought about working overseas, and life had a twisted sense of humor. My responsibilities are vast, and leaving would complicate things for the family. While I know my family never wants to be guilty of holding me back, I know going would equate to running away and not facing my insecurities and fears.
Part of my sassiness is a way to protect my heart. Cynical people are often viewed as tired, and to an extent, that’s correct but did it ever occur to folks that people may have differing views of society based on their interactions? Too many people think I’m so sweet. I can be. I can also be a mega-bitch. It depends on the scenario that I’m involved. I have a friend who has been with me on numerous occasions that people have said I was so sweet and funny. She’s experienced the polar opposite. She will be the first to tell you that my sarcasm, cynicism, and wit all stem from years of pain that have swelled inside my soul. She’s proud that I am standing up for myself and others who are dealing with various issues.
Isn’t that a reflection of all of us? We all have those Rocky types of moments. We all have fallen as an underdog in multiple areas, and if you are one of those folks who everything has come easily in life, PLEASE rub off some of your blessings on others. Many people get embarrassed routinely by the mean girls and boys. It’s easy to attack other people with words and not comprehend the damage that we inflict. Recognizing our part in how we treat each other goes a long way in helping others form their demeanor.
So I choose to be sweet and kindness-when my buttons get pushed too much- my Jekyll and Hyde emerge. I have my She-Hulk moments because there is only so much abuse a person can take before they determine that they are no longer going to be the doormat to have others wipe their feet on.
Parents – I urge you to talk to your kids and help them get help if bullies are causing them problems. It may seem like a minor problem, but there’s a more significant issue. PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder) is not something that only affects soldiers. It can affect anyone that has endured traumatic events. You may see a shift in your child’s attitudes, and that could be a red flag. Not everything will be a harmful change, but kids have memories that grow with them. Those memories can help shape their attitudes. I know it did for me.
Being too nice can be a problem too. Many people think that you are so lovely that you won’t stop their negative behavior. Standing up for yourself doesn’t mean you have to be a bitch. It means you have to be willing to not fall for every little thing.
So on this Monday, let me leave you with a thought. Are you going to be sweet today or sassy? I think a mixture of both would be good. We all need a little spice throughout our day to make things interesting. No matter what you choose, remember that the actions of others can propel you into certain mindsets. Don’t let anyone make you feel inferior, and stay focused on a healthy perspective for yourself. Have a great day, everyone.