Every day our world changes. We wake to know a loved one who has passed or lost something important in our lives. We might have had positive changes like the birth of a child or a promotion. We may have experienced something wondrous like a proposal or something that means the world to us. Regardless of where we are in our lives, change happens. It is through change that we can experience growth. Children grow before our eyes, and we age every day.
Yesterday morning I was at my church when I learned that a friend of mine died from a heart attack. Another friend had their home involved in a fire, and another friend had a mild heart attack. Lives were affected by these occurrences. Mortality is something we all contend with during our lifetimes. But when those who are young either die or are stricken with a disease that no one saw coming, it brings to light that change will happen no matter what we all may believe.
I’ve had people in my life find out they were pregnant when they weren’t ready for that chapter. Some of them kept the baby and raised it and did well for themselves and their child. A few of them had the baby, but life has been a constant struggle for them. In my life, some folks had a child, married someone other than the child’s father, created a stable environment for the child, and then yanked it away because they weren’t happy. They have not taken into consideration the child’s feelings. The person who did this has altered three lives because they wanted to remain in an illusion of paradise.
We all get wrapped up with life’s changes. Some people are very religious, and others don’t believe at all. Many people claim to be spiritual, and yet their actions prove otherwise. The truth is that no one knows for sure what lies beyond our knowledge. That’s why faith is integral for so many people. People look for things to help give them solace. For me, it’s faith. I don’t know what it is for you, and I don’t pretend to understand or try to make others believe what I do. I will say that faith has gotten me through many changes in my life. It’s made the darkest of days have some light that seeped through. Faith has given me energy when internally I’ve been drained. Whatever helps you cope with life’s changes, I hope you can adjust to life’s curveballs.I have often spoken about my Dad and his bout with cancer. What makes my heart fall is when I think about the stages that Dad endured without knowing the changes that his body would face. Sometimes ignorance is bliss. I think if Dad had known that he had cancer years before, it would have changed the fact that he lived a healthy quality of life before cancer made him incapacitated.
I became an outspoken advocate for folks who may have been misdiagnosed. Doctors are not always right. The doctors who are in the profession for the right reasons are the physicians I respect. When physicians live in their expensive homes and drive their luxury cars, that doesn’t impress me. What impresses me most is how they treat their patients and people in general. Know it all physicians are unwilling to admit when they are wrong. They tend to think they are better than an average person. This statement is not always the case, but it rings right a vast majority of the time. Technology and medicine change daily. Treatments for various diseases and ailments are evolving. It is up to us to pay attention to our bodies and recognize when we need assistance. Our bodies change with age. Our systems say a lot about how our quality of life will be later on in our later years.
Change isn’t always a bad thing. It seems like COVID has made change become a heartbreaking scenario in many ways. Businesses have become forced to close, and jobs are dwindling in many areas. If you are among the millions of people that have been affected negatively, I urge you not to give up. I heard something from a Dhar Mann video the other day. If you have ever watched any of his videos, you will understand where I got this line from, but “If you can believe it, you can achieve it.” The change affects all of us differently, but we have to remember that we can roll with the changes that life gives us as long as we believe in ourselves. I hope each of you can adapt to life’s changes like the gentle winds that breeze through our hair. A transition can be effortless or require a lot of effort to enforce. Either way, change helps create something different and unique. You aren’t alone in those changes. Keep smiling, believing in yourself, and dreaming. Have a great day, everyone.