This morning I woke up frazzled. My heart has been playing ping pong with itself for a while now. Many people think they know what is best for you and yet don’t have a clue as to the battles you are fighting. One of the biggest battles I face every day is motivation. Depression is an ugly beast. Even when we feel better about ourselves and our lives, depression can sneak up on us with little to no warning. It’s a complicated disease to fight.
I’ve gotten into a routine, and I usually start the day with breakfast after a workout. Rainy days are the worst. When the weather is bad, it makes me fight ten times harder to get motivated. Sometimes I would rather crawl back into bed than start my day. Unfortunately, that doesn’t accomplish much and only adds fuel to the fire with the depression battle.
Here are some helpful hacks that I have found are helping me combat a lack of motivation.
- Regularly review your goals and progress. This changes for me daily. Each day I have new goals. For example, I may want to achieve a certain amount of steps in my exercise regimen. I have to ensure that I get moving, and if I don’t meet that goal, I don’t reward myself. The rewards can be simple. Something like allowing for a bubble bath versus a shower or watching a movie that I never have time to do. Little things can and do make a huge difference when we are setting those goals.
- Continue to set new goals. When we get stuck in a routine, we tend to lose interest. Why not change up what you plan? For instance, if you always go to a gym to work out, why not try a new scenery change? Maybe go for a run or walk in the park early in the morning. If it’s too early, you might consider something else that interests you, but no matter what course of action you choose, remember to mix things up.
- Keep the momentum up. Look, if you aren’t willing to keep up the momentum of trying and engaging in new things, you will never be happy. Each day offers new opportunities and new connections. Don’t be afraid to stay focused and driven. This is a big world with lots of challenges. The more you keep your momentum going, the better opportunities will begin to open for you.
- Find mentors – a mentor is someone who is experienced in the habit you want to change. I can’t stress this enough. It’s always a good idea to have a mentor in your life. Only you know what excites you. If you can find like-minded mentors, you can have doors open for you if you are willing to pay attention to them and set your sights higher. None of us are perfect, despite what some people believe. A person can display an image of perfection, but that is a finely tuned craft. Mentors help us sell ourselves better. Be careful of making mentors out to be perfect. They aren’t. But they are a fantastic resource to keep pushing you to elevate your skills and desires.
- Surround yourself with positive people. When I get around people with the “Woe is me” complex, I walk away. We all have days of a pity party, but at some point, we have to take control of our lives and our attitudes. When we constantly engage in negative energy, that’s all we begin to know. It’s like cancer that keeps mutating. Don’t let it. When you surround yourself with positivity, the glass becomes half full and not half empty. There was a time in my life when I didn’t believe this. If you had asked me ten years ago about a half-full glass, I would have told you it was empty. I couldn’t see what the glass truly contained and didn’t understand that I couldn’t welcome the increases by looking at what had decreased. This is true in life. When all we see is the pessimistic approach, we can’t welcome the overwhelming positive resources we still possess.
- Use exercise as one of your daily goals to improve your mental health. Every day I force myself to work out, and it’s helped dramatically. I still have to fight to get motivated, but I’m more determined to have a healthier mind and body from this point forward. If you detest exercising, start small and work your way up. If you try to make up for years of not exercising in one sitting, it won’t work, and you’ll get discouraged. Set a pace that is reasonable and starts from there. Maybe start for 5 min and work your way up to 15 and then to 20 and then 30 and so on. The point is to give yourself the incentives to get moving.
Remember that no decision becomes a decision. If you blindly walk through life and feel numb, nothing will change. Life will pass you by, and you’ll wake up wondering where the time went. Every day we have on this earth is a gift. Stay on track with your goals, and if you fall off that track, it’s okay. Get back on it. Sometimes life throws us humdingers that we never saw coming. How we respond to those hiccups helps us in the long run. Stay positive and focused. We’re all on this journey together. There are always going to be unknowns in our lives. Be open to change, and if the changes are negative, don’t let the negativity corrupt you. Have a great day, everyone!