Today’s blog is going to piss some of you off. I won’t apologize for this. First, let me say that as a victim of sexual assault, if someone is brave enough to talk about what happened to them, that person should be applauded. Here’s where I’m going to make some of you mad. If a person accuses another person of a sexual assault that never occurred, that person should have the same punishment as the person they accused. Why do I say this? Because sexual assault or any assault is not okay, and when people fabricate an assault, they take away from the true victims. Credibility is yanked from those who were victimized. Many people forget that lives are affected by lies.
At least three men I know have been accused of sexual assault when it did not happen. Their lives will never be the same. They have served time in prison, had their jobs taken from them, had to build their lives back up, and are having to rebuild their credibility. We are talking years of rebuilding their lives. One of the girls that accused one friend said that if “she couldn’t have him, she’d make damn sure that no one else could.” This girl was underage at the time, but my friend will have this label of a child molester for the rest of his life. He is not a child molester, nor has he ever been. I’ve known him since he was a small child, and believe me; the man is more afraid of his sister than any judge or jury. He also has more respect than most men his age.
One of the men who helped her put him in jail has a local business. He’s as corrupt as the day is long. He helped her because my friend got injured on his property and didn’t want to pay for workers’ compensation. Instead, he opted to help her so that he didn’t have to pay any additional fees, and they could get rid of him. My friend was very young when this happened and naive. The police told him to tell them what they wanted to hear, and they’d let him go home. He did because he didn’t know better. He thought he was handling things the right way. Little did he know he screwed his future by not standing up for himself.
The young woman who accused him has a history of lying about men. She is accustomed to getting what she wants and ruining lives. Life isn’t fair. There are a lot of people in this world who operate in the same way. They think that they can do whatever they want with little to no accountability, and sometimes they are correct. I thought this would be a good opportunity to give you all a few tips while researching this topic. One of the sites I found is alllaw.com. They provided some beneficial information. Here is what they suggested:
Steps to Take If You Are Falsely Accused of a Crime
- Realize the seriousness of the accusations. If someone is accusing you of a crime, first, is it a serious crime? If it is, you are going to need to be armed with knowledge. That involves asking questions and possibly getting a legal team involved. I know it is a very costly process, but this is your future at stake, as well as your reputation.
- Understand the cost of defense. Some of you may say you can’t afford an attorney. I agree. They are expensive, but it may be an investment well worth your time in the long run. If I have learned anything over the last few years, it’s that investing in a good defense might well be your best offense.
- Intervene before charges. Sometimes this is unavoidable. But if you can intervene before things get worse, find a way to do so. There have been many incidents where intervening prevented worse actions down the road.
- Take no action. Sometimes problems simmer down. Don’t stir the pot if you can avoid it. But in today’s world, taking no action is not always the best approach.
- Gather any physical evidence and documents. Get as much information in writing as you can. Verbal agreements don’t mean squat anymore. If anything, a person’s word doesn’t stand for what it once did. By having physical proof, you have a stronger case.
- Obtain witness contact information. If you can get witnesses, then make sure you get their contact information. Sometimes that isn’t possible but learn to document everything.
- Investigation. You may need to do some sleuthing on your own. Local law enforcement doesn’t always have the time or resources to investigate your issue. Sometimes it may not be legal. Whatever it is, make sure you are using that time to your advantage. Ask questions until you are satisfied that you have the research needed to prove innocence.
- Plea bargain: If you are innocent, you may not want to take a plea bargain. Listen to your counsel. They have a better inclination of what you are dealing with.
We all need to remember that there are a lot of people who are out to manipulate the system to their advantage. Protect yourself by equipping yourself with knowledge. You can not keep people from falsely accusing you, but you can fight back. If you didn’t do something, hold your ground. Don’t admit to something you didn’t do; if you did do something you were accused of, own it. There are always going to be people in this world who have an agenda. Only be a part of the agenda if it meets your expectations.