Be Careful of Boasting

Boasting is a touchy subject for many reasons. When we are excited and happy about things that go well in our lives, we want to share those experiences with others. The danger to this is coming across like we are rubbing our success in other’s faces. For example, let’s say that you and a significant other broke up, and one of you gets serious with another person. While you may have conflicting feelings towards that individual, you might feel that person is rubbing your nose in their happiness. You may see their actions as boasting. If I’ve learned anything over these last few years, it’s humility. When we boast about the things that are going great, karma always bites back.

Here are a few reasons why boasting is never a good thing.

1.) Look foolish. Bragging about what you have makes you look petty. There is nothing wrong with being excited about positive changes in your life but keep in mind other folks are struggling. They may have had a bad relationship end or not entered one at all. They may be dealing with a lack of promotion in their professional lives while you may be thriving. They may be rubbing nickels together to pay bills while you are having your pockets stuffed with money. When you rub other peoples’ noses in your success, that leads to a recipe for disaster.  

2.) Hurt someone else’s feelings. It is always easy to hurt people’s feelings when you are happy. I’ve seen it too many times and done it myself without meaning to. Be mindful of what comes out of your mouth and the actions you deliver. In today’s world, everything is determined by its political correctness. This shouldn’t be the case. Unfortunately, walking on eggshells is becoming the norm. Offending others will happen but being mindful of other people’s feelings goes a long way to preventing other issues.  

3.) Create a rival. If you are looking for rivals, keep boasting. There will be people who want to take you down a peg. Don’t believe me? Let’s see. I graduated with a Bachelor’s Degree in 2006. There were people I worked with who thought I was a competition because I finished it. I generated rivals when that was never my intention. I learned those achievements are wonderful. But they are not worth causing friction in the workplace.  

4.) Cause someone to lose respect for you. There are many people I can fit into this category. I have co-workers from the past, an ex-husband, and many others, I have lost respect for over the years. The most important thing is to respect yourself. Be confident and not cocky. Be kind, but not a doormat to those you interact with, also, learning to respect others while zipping what comes out of your mouth can be beneficial in the long-run.  

5.) Make an enemy. I have made more enemies than I care to admit to over the years. I’ve had to learn to change myself and that took time. I’ve done many things over the years. Some of them are extremely positive, while others I wish I could change but can’t. There are people I’ve hurt emotionally along the way. To them, I’m truly sorry. I never fully comprehended my actions until later in life. I’ve lost people I thought were friends, only to find out that they hated me all along. I was blinded with blind trust.  

You are not going to make everyone love you. What you can do is think before you speak or write anything. The most difficult thing for me to do is not write or talk when I’m angry. I don’t do well in that category. What I can tell you is this: If you have made changes in your life that are positive and you feel the need to share, bravo. Are you surprised if others get jealous, or angry because you rub your success in their face? If you are the type of person who has to get recognition all the time, you are probably one of the people who need to rethink how they come across. There are a lot of people in this world who are hurting. They may be experiencing the loss of a loved one, a relationship, a job, or a pet. They may be dealing with the loss of a child or struggling because they watch others have the life they thought they wanted. We are in the heart of the Christmas season. It’s not a time to boast about our blessings but to share them. In that spirit, it’s okay to share of ourselves without the need to brag. After all, you never know who’s life is turned upside down. Sometimes, people need us to just be there without revealing all the wonderful things in our lives. Instead of talking about those things, let’s share them. You might learn a thing or two along the way.

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