There are people with who I have a difficult time working. I have to remember to not let them affect me. This morning I was thinking about the people with who I’ve had a tumultuous relationship that made me better along the way. Sometimes the ones that we have the most difficult transitions with are the people that we need the most without realizing how much of a difference they make.
Relationships don’t have to be based on physicality. There are co-workers, acquaintances, friends, and colleagues that challenge us. Our perception is based on what we know and is willing to learn. Life can not only be mean, but it can be a myriad of complexities along the way. Every relationship we encounter gives us a stepping stone to be different than we were before they entered our lives. Every conversation has the potential to lead us down various paths. We are conditioned to grow or to drawback.
When we lift each other, we have a positive and inclusive environment. But when we divide each other with negativity and insults, we become engaged in a combative mentality. We were all made to change the world. None of us exists just to exist. Your skills and talents are unique to you.
So today, I’m going to challenge you with a task. Saturday is Halloween. Why not do a treat for someone that you don’t like? You might surprise them with a gift card or even just a handwritten note letting them know that you appreciate them. Find one thing that they do well that has impressed you. They may need that extra compliment more than you realize.
There’s a woman I’ve been butting heads with a lot. I’m doing the same thing for her. Whether it will make a difference or not to her is irrelevant, but it will help me get past the frustration. Because it’s not about the other person. It’s about you making the world a little better. We all need a little kindness. Chocolate is a wonderful treat for this time of year but not everyone is a fan of it. Pay attention to the people around you. You may find that they can help you understand the components that you never thought you would need to know.
Challenge yourselves consistently to be better than you were the day before. Allow those who make you frustrated to teach you skills that you never thought you’d need. Believe it or not, some of them are teaching you patience to learn how to deal with difficult individuals. That skill will serve you well. Sometimes reaching out to those you don’t like will surprise you. There might be a common link that you both have. You don’t have to become bosom buddies with someone to show kindness. But you do have to allow for some growing pains. It’s not easy to reach out to those who make us feel inferior. Once you do, you will find that you find strength in ways you never knew possible.