What’s it really like to step into someone else’s world? If we all took a moment to see the world through each other’s eyes, we might be extremely surprised at the results. For example, let’s say that you are overweight. You see the world through the eyes of someone who possibly may have low self-esteem, low energy, and metabolism that won’t cooperate with your mentality. You look at those who are thin and think that they have all kinds of things going for them and you wish you could look like them. There are two things about this. First, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side and two we all make assumptions without knowing what’s going on with others. I’ve often wondered how my friends can do many of the things that appear to come easily to them. That enigma is being solved by opening my own world up to learn from theirs.
We can’t live each others’ lives. But we can learn to embrace the things that make us all unique. For example, if you are the type of person who burns food, have you thought about taking cooking classes? Maybe you might start watching shows that teach cooking. Or how about those who want to learn more about wine? I’ve actually started trying various wines trying to increase my palate and being willing to learn more about the grapes that are used in making them. I’m not the type of person who can step out of their box easily but over the last couple of years, I’m seeing that this world is huge. There are so many various venues to check out. I used to like to watch dance shows. For one because I loved the energy but I’m finding that if I push myself to learn different dance moves, I may never be a dancer but it won’t stop me from learning new skills. Even if I never master them, that’s okay because I’m trying to keep growing.
It’s harder to do things because of the virus but not impossible. It just means that we have to be willing to adapt to different views and opportunities. Most of us loved to go out for dinner with friends and family and it’s become increasingly difficult to make this happen. In fact, there are new reports out that say dining out frequently gives a higher exposure to the virus. There’s so much fear in the air and it’s justified. Just yesterday, my assistant called me to tell me that she couldn’t work this weekend. She was having emergency surgery for her gall bladder. Of course, they tested her for COVID and she tested positive even though she had no symptoms of it. This woman is a clean freak. It just goes to show that even when you take precautions that nothing is guaranteed. I can’t even begin to imagine what’s going through her mind and her world at the moment. But I can guarantee you that she is dealing with things in her world that a lot of others are dealing with at the moment. Disbelief is among them.
I’ve had folks call me on a frequent basis that pours their hearts and souls out and sometimes it feels as if I’m right there in the same universe as them. That may not make any sense but even when we all drift apart, there’s a core connection that never dissipates. If anything it changes along with us. It becomes impossible to step into their world when aren’t even willing to step out of your own galaxy. If there’s one thing that I’ve learned over the years, it’s that we are all part of something bigger than we comprehend. We all inspire and reject others without always comprehending our actions. What’s important is that we remember we can’t do everything alone. At some point, we have to let our walls dissipate and learn to open up. Only then can we grow as people and as a society. Take some time to reach new perspectives. Grow your mind, soul, and even your astral presence by allowing the unknown to be learned. There’s got to be things in this world that you’ve always wanted to do. Don’t come up with excuses. Excuses are easy to make. Solutions are harder because they require participation.
I think that’s one of the reasons that I fell into the world of social media. When my Dad got sick with cancer, my world stopped. Everything was in slow motion. I was completely dumbstruck. Here was a man who never got sick and was being attacked vigorously by a disease with no mercy. He went from fully functioning to vegetative in a matter of months. My heart didn’t have time to react. Everything went from being in one realm to another. I had been laid off from my job only to go into a full-time caregiver mode and I had no comprehension of what that truly meant. All I knew was that I was entering an unknown world with little to no choice about how to get there. I loved my Dad with every fiber in me. He was the one person who understood me better than I understand myself. My friends say I’m a lot like my mom with my temper but those who knew my dad will also tell you that I have my father’s patience on a lot of issues. Just don’t push my buttons or else the “Mini Version” of my mom will infiltrate. Since she worked in healthcare for over fifty years, she can be a force to be reckoned with in the world. I had to learn about the world of cancer against my will and the will of our family. I had to learn to stand up for my father in a world of know it all physicians who only looked at him as a case study and not a person. I dealt with a lot of narcissistic and masochist individuals who tested every ounce of patience I had. I don’t regret what I learned. I only regret my dad couldn’t be saved. It was a world I wouldn’t have chosen for the three of us to exist in but cancer chose us. I learned that there are many people who will judge you because they don’t think you are handling a patient’s care the way they want. Anyone who knows me understands that I am against Governmental Healthcare overall. I think it’s great for those who need the coverage but the downside is the quality of care that a patient receives is taken away when options become only one way. None of us do everything the same way. Why does the government feel that our healthcare should be limited options? My family is into more of the holistic approaches. It’s not for everyone but the way we handle our healthcare shouldn’t be dictated by a society that thinks they can control what people need.
While Dad was alive, we weren’t able to go to church. Communication was horrible. But it made me see that a great need was not being met. We had no social media presence. No one wanted to make the change. Or should I say no one was willing to give the time to make the changes. My world became bigger because when Dad died, I started infusing myself with knowledge. I started studying insights and analytics. I wanted to know more about algorithms. Anything that dealt with marketing I wanted to learn because our church was in trouble. People were leaving. Pews had less and less activity. I loved being able to grow internally. I became infused with a new spirit and energy. In many ways, dad’s death created a new life in me while another part of me had died.
Being open to new worlds became my saving grace. Technology changes every day and embracing those changes allows us to utilize new possibilities. We can explore, create, imagine, transport, and train ourselves to adapt to new ways of doing things. Yes, there are dark sides to technology. But there’s darkness in the world. Even the sky has a morning and night. The world at night is very different than the world during the day. There are differences as to animals that roam the night versus those that are prominent during the day. The same is true for all life.
I believe that every dream brings us one step closer to where we want to be. It’s just a matter of letting the dreams help to inspire and motivate us into the life we always wanted but never knew was possible. Don’t let fear and others hold you back. Yes, you need to prioritize in your life but priorities don’t necessarily mean that you can’t achieve what you want. Sometimes things in our lives happen where our health is an issue. You may not be able to physically or even mentally achieve everything in life that you want, but as long as there’s a breath in you that allows you to keep going, I hope that you are able to step into all kinds of new worlds and discover the you that’s been there all along just waiting to be seen.