So many of us have had stepping stones in our lives. We’ve had to learn to lean on others when we are lost. Many of us don’t ever truly figure out what our purpose is. I think part of that is because our priorities shift. We don’t go after our dreams because many of us have kids and everything becomes about them. We’re meant to do the best that we can but sometimes our best isn’t good enough. When that happens, we’re forced to shift gears and start over. It could be the loss of a relationship, or the loss of a job but no matter what life throws at us, we are conditioned to believe that things will get better. Things will get better if we make some changes. When we continue to do the same patterns in life, very little changes. What’s the best way to create a second act in our lives? Start over.
- IT’S OK TO START OVER. … None of us stay the exact same in our lives. We are all changing and evolving even when we fight those changes. Look at starting over like a brand new book. You get to create how the book will read.
- Start with cleaning up the space you live in. …If we live in a disorganized fashion, that’s exactly how our lives are going to be – disorganized and chaotic. Whereas if we live with more organization, more structure and with more intention, then we can begin to figure out exactly what we want our next act to be. The beautiful thing about this is that none of us have the same story. That’s the beautiful part of diversity.
- Make peace with reality and work with, not against it. … If you are holding grudges or anger against people or circumstances that have kept you down, then in many ways you are fighting yourself. Learn to let go. Holding onto negative energy is only damaging to you.
- Reflect on what and where you went wrong. … If you don’t try to troubleshoot your actions, then it’s a lot like trying to do a project without acknowledging your mistakes. You can set yourself up for repeated failure. What’s important is that you reflect on that mistakes and try to learn from them.
- Revisit your goals and values. … Our goals and values change over time. This isn’t something that none of us know. In fact, as we change, our priorities change. Sometimes we find ourselves becoming more spiritual, other times we find ourselves struggling to find where we fit in this world. No matter the issue, we have to learn that we are constantly evolving and that’s a very good thing.
- Decide what you want to do next. Only you can make this decision. There’s a lot of room to grow in this world. Be willing to step out of your comfort zone. If you truly love something, pursue your options. This is your life. Don’t be afraid to live it.
Let me explain why this topic is important to me. Years ago, I had the privilege of attending a private school, received an excellent education and refused to allow myself to benefit from it. I chose to drift through life. In part, because I never felt worthy of the better life that I could have had. I robbed myself of some very important friendships and relationships because I didn’t allow myself to thrive. Instead, I became invisible to myself. I didn’t understand the concept of blazing through hell because I was too busy living in one that I created unknowingly. I allowed myself to stay in an unhealthy mentality with friendships that didn’t push me to do more. It took me a long time to understand what went wrong.
I would go through spurts where I’d regain my confidence and then try to put the pieces back and then something always knocked me on my tail. There would go the confidence and it would spiral into a pattern that took decades to learn to change. It also took failed relationships and a lot of self exploration and conversations with God to tell me that I could be really dense at times. I was putting stock in way too many things and not trusting God to guide me. I believe that we’re all just a moment away from shining in everything we do. I also believe that we all have the potential to be who we’re meant to be. We just have to find our footing when the ledges are shaky and the earth is quaking.
I heard a song this morning that said “If you’re going through hell, keep on going.” But I’m going to dispute that for a second. I think that if you’re going through hell, pick up the pitchfork and start slaying the demons that get in your way. Because each of us has things in our lives that are our own set of demons and interference. Whether its pride, confidence, courage, etc., we all have times in our lives that the fear factor falls in our way. Don’t let it. The last couple of years, I’m picking up so many pieces but the difference now is that I’m sticking to things. I’m finishing what I start and that’s a really good thing. Once I get through one hurdle, I’m learning for the next one. It’s not an easy journey but it is a very satisfying one. In many ways, my soul is waking up and absorbing every moment it can. It’s helping me gain a perspective that was lost. This has become a second act for me. I can’t wait to see what this act will bring because if it’s anything like the last few chapters, it’s going to be one hell of an opportunity.