How many times can I put my foot in my mouth? A lot. I can throw out a quip at the worst times and not realize what I’ve done until the damage has already occurred. For example, I was at a local Sears store. Now, Sears has been having lots of issues and we all are aware of this but because of all the downsizing that has occurred, it’s been frustrating to find things when I needed them. So, one of the customers was waiting in line and she commented how long the lines were, and without thinking, I blurted out, “No wonder they were going into extinction.” While it was true, it wasn’t my best moment to shine. The clerk shot me a dirty look and rightfully so. It isn’t the staff’s fault that the CEO’s and upper echelons can’t seem to figure out a way to use their high incomes to invest in the same companies that are padding their wallets.
Then other times had nothing to do with how I treated others but rather medical issues that were going on with me. No one likes to admit that they wet their britches. Medically, I had some problems that were causing me to have a wet tush on more than one occasion. I was in my forties and was uncomfortable. I was finally able to have surgery to correct the problem but it didn’t make me feel very confident. There’s nothing worse than wetting yourself and not be able to control what’s going on. It’s embarrassing and makes you feel like there’s something wrong with you. Society doesn’t help with this. But I think it’s important, to be honest about what happened because more and more folks are dealing with this. It isn’t something that people want to discuss but it’s a real problem. If you do have issues with this, many times you are made to feel like you are a leper. It’s really important to keep up with your body and make sure that when you have problems with it, that you get it addressed. Sometimes it’s really hard to do this especially when money is a problem. All I can tell you is that when you are determined to get it fixed, you will find a way to do it.
Then there’s the ever-present scenario of relationships. How many of you have done some of the dumbest things to impress that special someone? Oh, I’ve done it all. From floundering conversations to forgetting my keys after talking to him, to not being able to form a complete sentence to getting caught reprimanding myself and looking like a complete moron. Yep, I’ve done it. Not some of my finest moments but I can at least own them.
I’ve been embarrassed at work by having everything you can imagine go wrong doing just that. I’ve messed up by sending out the wrong forms to the wrong folks, I’ve started talking in a foreign language to those that I assumed didn’t speak English, Big mistake. Huge! But I learned to never assume. I’ve learned that spelling names incorrectly can be a big embarrassment so it’s really important to make sure that you get it right because some folks get out of sorts. Don’t mess up with money either. If you want to prevent folks from getting angry, this is not an area that you want to compromise.
Then there’s the inevitable tripping over my own two feet in the wrong place at the wrong time. Granted, I’ve never been filmed doing it, or at least I don’t know about it if I was, but it’s embarrassing when your lack of coordination takes over. Or how about singing or dancing when you think no one’s watching only to find out that not only were they watching but they applaud you afterward? I’ve had that happen too.
The point I’m making is that we all have those moments in our lives that make us feel embarrassed but in reality, there’s a lot to be learned from our oops moments. We all learn differently and sometimes it takes life’s most embarrassing moments to make us see what we need to address within ourselves. It’s easy to think that what we do doesn’t matter but the truth is that we all impact others. When we own up to our faults, others may not forgive us and that’s on them. What’s important is that we learn to laugh at our errors, learn from them, and become the best version of us that we can. There are enough people in this world who are throwing knives in our back. You don’t have to allow them to get the best of you. Be aware that it’s okay to get embarrassed. It may even hurt for a little while but anytime you can get up from being knocked down is another event that you learn to get a little stronger from. So the next time you get really embarrassed, remember you aren’t the only one who’s ever had to go through an embarrassing episode, dust yourself off, learn to laugh at the irony and then move forward. Who knows? You might even have some really great stories to tell later.