What does it really mean to be personally responsible for your actions? I ask this only because to me, we are responsible for what we say and do. We’re responsible for making sure our jobs are done and done correctly. I guess the thing I’m struggling with is when I turn on the news, I hear so many varying conversations about personal responsibility.
Having worked in numerous venues during my lifetime, I’ve watched as those who did not do their jobs well, took credit for what others had done. They knew that they could bully those folks and get away with it. The sad part is that once your confidence is shattered, it’s really difficult to put it back together. I’ve been researching several different things that are helping me accept mine. I hope they help you as well.
- Take responsibility for your thoughts, feelings, words and actions. No one expects you to think for someone else but your thoughts, words and actions have consequences. Your feelings can be exposed through body language and that can be just as devastating as words that you spew.
2. Stop blaming. If I had a dollar for every person that I’ve heard blame someone else for, I bet I could probably start making as much as an A list superstar. There’s a lot of things in this world that aren’t your fault, but if you even had a hand in something that could be construed in a negative light, then you are just as guilty as anyone else. Own up to your own actions.
3. Stop complaining. This can be tricky. Especially if you’ve been done wrong by people close to you. Learn to chuck the negativity. Karma will deal with those who are doing you dirty. They can claim they’ve found God or that they don’t want to deal with you but at some point, they will have to deal with their actions.
4. Refuse to take anything personal. Start looking at your life like a business transaction. Don’t allow yourself to get so vested in something or someone that you can’t think straight. I’m not saying don’t fall in love. What I am saying is that not everyone is your friend. You may think that they are, but they have their own priorities.
5. Make yourself happy. No one can do this for you. I wish they could. Find the things that give you meaning. Don’t let other people ruin your happiness. Hone your crafts to where you are able to show your gifts to the world.
6. Live in the present moment. Don’t live in the past or future. Your life is here and now. Don’t worry about the what if’s. Instead, look at what is. I have made this mistake before. I beat myself up plenty for things I didn’t do and was really hopeful for things from the past to work out. It prevented me from moving forward.
7. Use the power of intention. Intention is a powerful tool. It helps us contrive goals and dreams and bring them to fruition. Intention can also be used against us. Stay focused on your dreams. Don’t derail them if you can help it and if life starts taking you in a different direction, be open to the changes.
8. Feel calm and confident. This is hard especially if you fight depression and anxiety. The main thing is to remember that getting anxious won’t solve anything. Keep calm. You’ll make better decisions and get better opportunities along the way.
9. One more thing. Don’t settle. I’ve done it and regretted it. Many people I know have done it and tried to convince others they are happy. This is your life. Live it to the fullest with no regrets.
I wish our government would take personal responsibility for their actions. There’s too much bickering and not enough problem solving but none of us can fix them. We can only fix ourselves by becoming more educated and patient in dealing with those who push our buttons. When you own your mistakes, you receive more respect and admiration than if you are blaming the rest of the world for your errors.