Growing up, I remember hearing the Carpenters singing “Rainy Days and Mondays Always Get Me Down.” It was actually one of my favorite songs because it reiterated that I detested Mondays. It wasn’t until much later in my life that I learned to embrace Mondays. Mainly because it was the start of the week. I had to invoke positive thoughts into my head getting up on Monday mornings because I had adopted a positive outlook and wasn’t going to let anything or anyone bring me down.
We all have those times in our lives that we struggle with. Over the last few months, I’ve found tremendous assistance with so many folks who have been reaching out and letting me know that they are going through some difficult times as well. When the workday rolls around, most of us can’t wait for the weekend. But if we went into work with the mentality that it’s going to be just as good as a Friday, it makes the day a lot more fun. For example, I love going out with friends. Because COVID has been such an issue, it’s made it more difficult but I still do this. If nothing else, being able to celebrate life is a gift. This year I turned 50. It was one of the worst birthdays that I’ve ever had. COVID prevented me from being able to celebrate. I had to lock myself in the office, nothing was open, I could only go home to leftover food and drink a mixed drink that I made. In many ways, it was one of the most depressing birthdays I’ve ever had. After I got done wallowing in self-pity, I came to understand how blessed I really am. I have a roof over my head, a place to sleep, food to eat, and family that I could still talk to and am close with. Those are the little things in life that should take precedence over everything else. When we constantly compare our lives to what others have, we are selling ourselves short.
There are folks in my life that I’ve just distanced myself from. In part, because they never finish what they start. When we speak of rainy days, there is a literal interpretation at times because Mother Nature has a mind of her own. She can either bless us with what we need of rain, give us so much it floods our areas, or cause droughts. We’ve had a lot of rain in the area I live lately. It’s given me a new perspective on what’s important in my life. Positive reinforcement is extremely important to me. Perhaps it’s because there are too many folks in this world who just take and take and take that the givers sometimes feel as if there’s nothing left to give. That’s when it’s time for the givers to give themselves a break. If you allow the other energy that exists to drain and consume you, that’s exactly what will happen.
I did some research online that helped me come up with a few tips that might help you get out of the Monday mindset and focus your energy on the things that are important. The following steps came from the website https://www.verywellmind.com/tips-to-reduce-morning-anxiety-2584123. Your sleep habits could be playing a major role and you don’t realize it. For example, “
Some healthy sleep habits to consider adopting include:
- Avoid stimulating activities two to three hours before bedtime (for example, watching TV, working on your computer, exercising vigorously, and drinking caffeine).
- Engage in a relaxing activity before bedtime like curling up with a good book or getting a back rub from your partner.
- Go to bed at the same time every night and wake up at the same time every day, including weekends.
- Keep your bedroom cold (around 65 degrees Fahrenheit) and dark (invest in room-darkening shades or curtains).
- Use your bed only for sleep and sex.”
For me, it’s tough to not watch TV at night. I’m a crime show junkie. I am addicted to shows like NCIS, (all versions of it), Prodigal Son, New Amsterdam, 9-1-1, and fast-paced dramas. I already have ADHD and my mind doesn’t like to slow down. It’s a process for me to wind down. I love to read so that’s become a constant in my life.
Exercise is a given. When we work out, we tend to feel better after a rigorous regime. Exercise helps us to strengthen both our bodies and minds. Just about every single web site that you can research anything for better health will recommend exercising. You don’t have to be a marathon runner in order to get in shape. You just have to be consistent. Work yourself up to at least thirty minutes a day and talk to your doctor about what may work best for you. They’ll also tell you to watch your diet and think positive.
One thing that every single one of us has to contend with is what image do we want others to see of us? Most of us want people to see us in a positive light and not a negative one. Overall, I think it’s a good thing that people see you in the best light possible. But the reality is that we all have bad days. Attitude is everything. I have to work on mine extremely hard sometimes. Why? Because I call things like I see it. There are times where I want to be able to tell someone to “kiss my southern fried grits.” And I have to hold it in and smile. There are times that I want to tell someone to “take it and shove it.” But I have to stay nice. It’s not easy. We all lose our cool. I lose mine on occasion and in truth, have found that by being honest about what I did wrong that many others have done the same thing. Businesses penalize folks for mistakes. Some of those mistakes the public deems irreversible. What matters is that you see yourself as the capable, lovable, unique individual who makes mistakes, can be grumpy and nice all on the same day and that you don’t take the negativity with you. Shake it off as best as you can and keep going. No one has to be right all the time.
Mondays can be considered a new beginning, a clean slate, and a new moment. Don’t let the feeling of dread take over. Look at every day with a new mindset. When you wake up, ask yourself what the day is going to bring you. Are you going to rise to the challenges that are presented? Or are you going to go with the flow and feel that the day is bogging you down? Whatever you decide, you are in charge of you and what you want. Don’t forget that. Let the others who want to be spoilsports do their will to others. You don’t have to be a doormat. Kill them with kindness and hospitality. In the end, you’re the one who has to look in the mirror at yourself and how you are perceived.