This morning started off in a Murphy’s Law mode. I got out of bed, tripped over my own two feet, accidentally nailed my big toe against the end of my bed and writhed in agony because I had managed to hit the one toe that had been injured not long ago. I went to brush my hair after getting a shower and my brush broke. Then I went to the kitchen to conjure up something edible for breakfast and yep, you guessed it, burned breakfast. I think all of us have those days that if we could go back to bed and start over, we would find the rewind button our lives and play out those scenarios with a different outcome.
Life is strange. When we think we know how things are going to turn out, God has a laugh at us and proves us wrong. If you don’t believe in God, then maybe you believe in destiny or fate. I truly believe that we all have a purpose and sometimes we forget that a little humility can go a long way. I’m glad the above scenario was not on camera. Many of my peers and loved ones would have busted out laughing at me had they seen me exhibiting various injuries to myself. Believe me when I say it wasn’t intentional. I’ve had to learn to laugh at myself over the years because if I take everything so seriously, then I become incapable of being my true self.
I’ve got a lot of frustration built up over a varying array of issues. But at the same token, I’m using that frustration to educate myself and possibly others that humility and grace are at the core of who we all are. I grew up around people who loved to ridicule others. Many of them are multi-millionaires several times over. Good for them. But how would they survive if they had nothing? What if they couldn’t exist in their planes and expensive cars and homes? Many of them would not even be able to recognize themselves if they were placed in those circumstances. It doesn’t take much to treat others as human beings. It takes more than a village to have the patience and wisdom to understand that even though we are all different that it’s a gift to accept those difference. We all yearn for the human connection of kindness and understanding. There are times where we need to have thicker skin. All that means is that we don’t need to stop accepting criticism. In fact, it’s through criticism that we grow.
As a manager, I deal a lot with customer service. The uppser eschelons of the corporate world are all about the almighty dollar and I agree with the fact that it takes money to keep businesses going. Where I have had to learn a sense of humility and grace is in dealing with those who are in power. If a customer starts throwing around the owners name or the relation they have to my general manager, it’s a turn off to me. Number one because it makes it sound like that person is trying to get ahead by the people they know. That may work in a lot of different venues but a majority of the blue and white collar workers understand that this is a power play. Many of the managers feel the need to cave into pressure because they don’t want to get into an argument with their bosses. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t but I lose respect for people who have to revert to power plays to get what they want. To me, it comes across as they are better than everyone else so what they want, they get. Just because others may have a higher position in life, doesn’t equate to being better than everyone else. When we treat each other as human beings, it’s amazing at the level of respect that becomes reciprocated. It doesn’t take much to utilize kindness over vanity.
There are many in power who are good people. The perception they live with is one of mirrors. Can you imagine what it’s like to know that if you are running a company and you run it poorly that every single one of your employees and their families lives will be affected? Major corporations and executives have difficult decisions to make and they have to exhibit certain behaviors at times to continue their facilities success. Behind the scenes, many of them are contributing to their society, not just with monetary donations, but they get in the trenches and learn about those not only in the work sector, but those in their community as well. They may work in homeless shelters, soup kitchens, non-profit sectors, community centers and gardens. They take the time to get to know people as people. It’s through those actions that they stay grounded. There’s more people than you may realize that are contributing in this manner. To assume that someone who is in a high position has no morals or values is just as daunting as those who bicker and complain about every little thing in their life without showing any sign of humility, grace, or even gratitude for the blessings they contain.
I would be remiss if I didn’t admit to my faults. I’ve exhibited poor behavior, lewd conversations, and attention seeking antics in my life. I’m not proud of many of those instances but I’m not afraid to admit to them either. Even those who are some of the squeakiest clean image people around have done things in their life that have made them a little more humble at times. It’s all in how we perceive our actions.
I’m a big fan of Hells Kitchen. I love watching Gordon Ramsey get so irate with those working around him. Why? Because he’s not yelling for the sake of yelling. He’s passionate about his craft and won’t tolerate those who just exist for the sake of existing. There’s a pride in the products that he presents and he expects that same pride to be exhibited for those to enjoy. Our senses are at their finest when we force them to delve into areas that our eyes can’t see. For example, when you blindfold someone to do a taste test, what senses do you think that person is utilizing? For one, there’s a sense of smell. The aromas that smelling can discern is full of various scents. Some can be tantalizing while others are disgusting. Some of them are exotic while others could be more of an earthy scent. Irregardless, if a person relies only on sight, then they don’t always see what is truly there. Whereas our senses see what our eyes cannot. For those who can hear, the sense of hearing can tell us when things are sizzling, sounds that we take for granted like music and birds chirping, the ringing of a phone, conversations with those around us, and so many other noises that we enjoy daily, give way to being able to define what we hear. Our taste buds can tell is something is divine, grotesque, plain, good, bland, dry, moist, and an array of other descriptions of what we eat and drink. It can help describe the physical attributes as well of the first kiss of the person we are with. Memories are etched based off our senses. Our minds might forget things over time but our senses don’t. Those memories are intertwined within our souls.
So why did I call this blog humility and grace? Simple. We all do things in our lives that are embarrasing. We make decisions that are poor at times and leave lasting impressions on those around us. Our actions can create a ripple effect on others. When we exhibit both humility and grace to those we are connected to, then we are saying that we accept others faults. I don’t know about any of you. I’d rather be able to accept my faults and those of others and be able to look myself in the mirror knowing that I’m not judging the actions of others. What I am doing, is setting the bar higher for my own moral compass. No one on this earth is better than anyone else. There may be people who are in higher positions, but that doesn’t mean they have the right to belittle you or make you question your own worth. Our jobs can teach us humility and grace if we let them. It takes open minds and hearts for lessons to be truly absorbed.