This has been a whirlwind of a weekend. No matter how I look at things, I’ve dealt with the loss of a friend, a very busy social media weekend, studying, friends, and everything in between. I don’t regret a minute of it. I discovered that someone I thought was a friend, stabbed me in the back with others, has told numerous lies and tried to get me in trouble with more than one source all out of pettiness and spite. It’s juvenile drama. And one that I don’t have to engage in.
We all take chances in our lives. Getting out of bed is taking a chance. There are some people that have difficulty with that task alone. Moving about is a constant challenge for them and yet they force themselves to push on. Perhaps that’s why taking chances is so important. If we live our lives without focus, then we have nothing to really set goals with. I have ten dreams that I wish to make happen within the next ten years and I’m making them happen every day. I’m planning, saving, researching and growing as a person.
First and foremost, I really want to make it to Scotland. It holds a special place in my heart. I don’t even know that I understand why. I love folklore and legends. I crave knowledge about the restless spirits that are around me. In a way, it’s kind of strange. I love the land of the dead and living. Just because I have a strong desire to visit Scotland doesn’t mean that I want to go on a Ghost Hunt. What it does mean is that there are so many stories told there, the legends can come to life in one’s imagination and even in reality. There are some who swear up and down that they have seen the spirits with their own eyes. I’d never say they didn’t. In fact, I often wonder what the spirits would say to all of us if they could converse as easily as we do. I wanted to do this trip with my girlfriends but just about all of them had to have the men in their lives go. The whole purpose was to have time with other women but having the men tag along would be another issue all together.
Another thing I really want to do is learn how to dance. I know it’s silly. I watch Dancing with the Stars and I know I would get laughed at for even trying. There’s some fear there as well as the fact that I’ve been a tomboy for so long that seeing me in a dress would be enough to make most of my friends faint. The only dress I’ve been in for over twenty years was my wedding dress and even then, that was a battle. I know it would be a great opportunity to lose weight, get in shape and gain some much needed confidence. Now all I need is to save the money for those lessons. One saving bucket at a time. Right now, I’m doing everything I can to make dream number one happen.
Dream number three. This one I’m already making a reality. I want to try a different type of wine everyday. I really want to expand my palate. I’ve been more partial to really sweet wines and am learning how to pair other wines with different dishes. This has been a little trickier for me because I tend to be a picky eater but I’ve discovered that as I get older, the more willing I am to try new things, the more my palate expands. It’s amazing what can happen if we chose to let ourselves grow.
Dream number four. I want to finish my masters degree and be situated in a job within marketing that pays almost double what I’m making now. The reason? I have two degrees, numerous certifications and yet have had difficulty selling myself to the outside world. I am learning better negotiation tactics. My confidence level is growing. I’m able to write better content. I’m expanding my network and I’m not stifling myself to those who are so opinionated that I can’t see more than one side of a topic. I’m learning to be fluid in my thoughts. That’s a huge blessing.
My fifth dream is one that I hope I see in my lifetime but fear that I may not. I dream of unity in the world. I dream of a world that no longer looks at each other as what race we are, that our disabilities do not define what we are able to do, that women and men are not having to prove themselves for every little thing. I know it isn’t completely realistic. That’s why it’s a dream. I dream that no race is deemed more important than another. White privilege will no longer exist. Instead there will be equality. Bullying will cease, Depression will become a thing of the past, and Cancer won’t be an issue. It’s a dream. I know. But hey, if we can’t dream, then we can’t envision a better future.
My sixth dream is to be completely out of debt in three years. This one should be a reality within two but I’m giving myself that extra year just in case. I’ve learned to plan for the emergencies because there will be some along the way. The best rule of thumb to get out of debt is to put aside about 10 % of your check every pay day and that’s what I’ve been doing. It’s tough sometimes though. But anything worthwhile is worth doing.
My seventh dream is to practice my faith more. Reading the Bible should be something I do regularly and I don’t. Honestly, I just forget to pick it up sometimes. What I’d really like to do is to start attending some Bible classes with people that I don’t even know. It would help to know that I’m not the only one who is a slacker when it comes to practicing what I believe. Sometimes it just means studying and placing yourself where you can learn rather than creating plausible excuses.
My eighth dream is to meet at least ten new people a day for the next year. It’s hard to do this when your office is quiet and few people come in. But it’s important to keep putting yourself out there. As things settle down and we can all have more interaction with one another, hopefully this can be put into practice before too much longer but with all the restaurants and other establishments just now opening up, this is a little more challenging to make a reality.
My ninth dream is that I’d like to see more areas that were used for construction of homes to be better utilized in their space with more allocation for the wildlife. Housing is not always the best option. Just look at all the buildings that sit vacant that were once a prime residential area. Things in life happen. We can’t predict the future. We have no idea of all the changes that are truly occurring but if we don’t find ways to protect the wildlife and forests, then we set up all kinds of problems long term. Extinction is only one of the issues. We need the wildlife and nature as much as they need us. There has to be a balance somewhere.
Finally, I dream of setting down roots away from where I am currently. Just like all of you, I dream of being with the person who is right for me. I dream of a family that I adopt along the way. I dream of unconditional love being given and received. I also dream of never allowing myself to stop dreaming. It wasn’t too long ago that I dreamed I was in a tornado. The strange thing was that the tornado let me ride on top of it to see everything that it was destroying. It thrust me in a tree where I was rendered unconscious. Yet, in the dream, I could see everything. The past, the present, and even snippets into the future. It was enough to remind me that we all have those tornado moments. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not making fun of tornadoes. Not at all. They are dangerous, unpredictable and downright menacing. What I am saying is that we all have things in our lives that side sweep us when we least expect it. The important thing is to not lose sight of our dreams, our hopes, and our ambitions. It is through these tools that we are able to build ideas and opportunities.
You are the only person who knows what your dreams are. Start figuring out what you want out of life. Plan for the unexpected things and also for your dreams. Set your goals and reminders of who you are and who you want to be. Don’t let where you are be the reason that you don’t get where you want to go. Be willing to dream, to live, and to try.