It’s been roughly a week since I last did a blog. In that week, my life has changed considerably. I had a very serious decision to make… Read more “Life Changes”
I know I’m not alone with this issue. I have a tendency to say what I think at the absolute worst times. I mean, you are talking… Read more “Think Before You Speak”
Anyone out there who understands running out of patience? I think it’s one of the hardest things to stomach when there’s a lot that doesn’t get said.… Read more “Understanding = Patience”
I love the idea of tranquility. You know. The mindless motions of our thoughts becoming one with the universe. Letting go of our inhibitions and stress. Putting… Read more “Peaceful Thoughts”
What if you could get the job you have longed for? What if you could find happiness in a relationship? What if you could have enough money… Read more “Turn What If’s into What Is”
There are days that it takes every ounce of strength I possess to get up and face the world. There are also days where my energy is… Read more “Soaring Spirit”
I truly hope that none of you ever has to lose a child. It is the most heart wrenching, hollow, sickening feeling that someone will ever have… Read more “Dealing with Miscarriage Emotions”
What to you is the worst thing about grief? I know for me the hardest part was not being able to talk to the person I loved… Read more “Transitioning Grief”
You know what I think about jealousy? I think that jealousy is one of those emotions in life that can have a double edged sword. Without jealousy,… Read more “Ignore the Haters – Just Shine”
Any history and legend buffs out there? I love ghost stories and legends. I think it’s because there is a certain mystique that has never been resolved… Read more “Loving Legends”
You know what I love the most about kids? Kids tell it like it is. They don’t see hatred until they learn it from others. I think… Read more “When Your Faith Falters, Kids Remind You”
What is it about the term “midnight” that seems so magical? Is it the fact that Cinderella returned to her rags at midnight? Is it that the… Read more “Midnight”
I think this is one of the hardest things every single one of us deals with. When things don’t go our way, we are prone to grumbling… Read more “Stop Complaining – Be the Change”
As I think about the summer and how the hot days are still here but the fall is just around the corner, I think about the excitement… Read more “True Friends”
There are times in all our lives where learning to be quiet can be quite powerful. If you don’t believe me, take a look at the people… Read more “Why Being Quiet Can Turn Into Power”
Let me just say that if I hear “You’ve got time” one more time I think I’m going to scream. My whole life I have put off… Read more “Time Manages You if You Aren’t Careful”
Now I know I’m not the only one out there who has had a difficult time learning to say “No.” We all have tendencies to take on… Read more “Learn to Say “No””
Have you ever had those feelings? You know the ones where certain people just grate on your last nerve and no matter what you do it’s never… Read more “Sometimes I really don’t like people”
Sometimes we never know what we’ll say when we get confronted with a situation. Here are just a few examples.
Are you a savvy shopper? Do you like finding great deals? Most of us do. For many of us, money doesn’t grow on trees. Apps have become… Read more “Seeking Great Deals”
False accusations are not a fun feeling. They happen when people are jealous and want to stir up trouble. You don’t have to let it rule your life. You do need to learn to stand up for yourself.
Sometimes we have to deal with our own failures before we can succeed. I hope no matter where life takes you that you can be ok when you fail because that will give you that wings to fly with success.
Every single one of us is a brand. The question is how do we market ourselves in a competitive environment?
If we label everyone in this world, then we don’t see the whole individual. Sometimes the roughest gems in folks turn out to be the shiniest jewels.
One of my biggest things that I love sharing is pure joy. If it wasn’t for a wonderful support system, I would not be able to see the good in life but rather dwell on the negatives. Thankfully faith and prayer along with a great support system has helped me heal. I hope others see they aren’t alone.
One of the things that has been bothering me a lot lately is that I have watched a lot of different churches fold because they weren’t meeting the needs of those in their congregations and communities. I hope this blog lets people see that even Christians are struggling with things happening in our churches.
There is nothing like remembering the scents that brought you happy memories. Many times those memories are the one thing we have that reminds us of things and people that love and loved us unconditionally.
Just because a sale may be going on, it doesn’t mean that it’s a great deal. I hope this blog shows you how a great deal can turn into a dud. Learn from my mistakes.
There are always going to be people who frustrate you. The question is how do you deal with them to keep from getting you more agitated? Here’s a few pointers that might help.
Sometimes our imaginations lead us to dreams that tell stories that we wouldn’t have told without a little assistance. While I can’t see myself literally in the jungle, it was a cool dream.
There’s a lot of discussion going on in the world today about the empowering of women. It’s not like in previous times where women should be the equivalent to arm candy. Now they are being accepted in different realms and it’s about time.
After hearing this couples story, I learned that sometimes broken dreams lead to new ones.
What is it about our friends that makes us feel like we are safe, loved, secure and grateful? I think in many ways our friends are a family. We have our ups and downs, our arguments and celebrations, and throughout it all, the truest friends stay a part of our lives even when we’ve been estranged from them.
One of my very best friends has been friends with me since we were twelve. We get told a lot that we share a brain and if that were really true, the world would be a very scary place. Yeah, we can finish each other’s thoughts but we can also call each other out when we need to and know that it comes from a place from love. She challenges me to research everything and while I may not do things the same as she does, I respect her tremendously. She raised her kids mostly on her own for years. And let me tell you. She rocks at it. She’s settled down with a man who adores her now and he loves her kids. But through all of it, I can truly attest to the fact that she has been a true friend, an inspiration on many levels and definitely a force to be reckoned with.
At one time we were both married to men who were a lot alike and they couldn’t stand each other. Her husband made a lot more money than mine but we put up with the marriages and leaned on each other. She understood where I was coming from and vice versa. When I lost my child, she was on the phone with me every single day checking up on me. She listened to my sobs, my anger, my confusion, frustration and hurt all tangled up in one very messy bow. She consoled me and told me that God had a plan for me and that even though we couldn’t understand it, that there was always a bigger picture than we could see. When her son was killed in an accident, I returned the favor. I knew exactly the pain she was feeling. Even though my child never made it to be born, I knew what loss was. No man or woman should ever have to go through that feeling. It’s a very hollow and unexplicable set of emotions. Yes, there are words. But those words rarely give you a clear idea of just how difficult it is to lose a child unless you’ve had to physically deal with it yourself. She still hasn’t really had time to completely deal with it because she’s been coming through for everyone else. What people don’t understand is that when you lose a child, you never get over it. You learn to exist in a different manner and learn to look at the world differently. I truly hope and pray that none of you ever have to experience this but if you do, remember you aren’t alone.
She has reminded me time and time again that I have to stop thinking about what I don’t have and focus on what I do have. I’m finally getting to a place where I can honestly say that I don’t really compare now. I’m never going to have a biological child. I had to get used to that and have time to adjust to the anger and hurt. Especially when my ex-husband replaced me with a look a like who could. And if he’s reading this, I really hope that he understands that he once told me that he “wanted to hurt me as bad as I hurt him.” But what he forgets is that he hurt me for a very long time. I just dealt with it by not dealing until I couldn’t take it anymore. I finally got the courage to walk away from a toxic situation. I don’t wish ill on him. I don’t wish him anything. His life isn’t mine to judge. I can only move on with mine. It’s through my friends support that I’ve had the strength to hang on when life didn’t seem fair. They have been the ones who supported me when my mental health took a beating.
I’ve written before about another friend of mine. He’s a lot like a brother to me. He has overcome many different disabilities and continues to inspire people with his faith in God. He was born having a stroke in his mother’s womb. He has a touch of scoliosis, cerbral palsy, and literally functions with half a brain. He had half his brain removed in order to stop epilepsy. He has been seizure free now for almost twenty eight years. Those seizures prevented him from living life to the fullest. He doesn’t process things like everyone else. He can be a jokester a lot of the time but he is the biggest Redskins fan you will ever meet. There isn’t much about the LALakers that he doesn’t know and he has a mannerism that is infectious. He loves to make people smile. That is his blessing. That and faith. When he worships, he gets everyone in a worshipping mood. He’s very smart with numbers and one of the most inspiring friends I have. Through it all, I’m grateful for his friendship. He struggles with recalling details in most conversations. If you asked him what was said in a sermon, I guarantee you he’ll say “I don’t know.” But he does remember the music and things that touched his soul in the services. But if you talk sports to him, he can quote you stats on the players and games that his favorite teams and players played in. He’s just like the rest of us. Very skilled in some areas and not as adept in others.
The next friend I’m going to mention is very special to me. She and I have been friends well over twenty years. I knew her when I was dating my former husband. Little did I know that he was having fun with her on the side. I think information comes to light after the fact but when she told me the truth, I couldn’t get mad. It had been over twenty years. She was a kid and I was in my early twenties. Nothing could be done to change the past but I didn’t have to let it ruin our future friendship. We lost touch because of my ex. But we reconnected ironically through Facebook and now we are in touch much more frequently. We have been through all kinds of issues. She’s had a lot of family issues to deal with just like I have. We’ve both had to deal with relationship problems and been able to come out on the other side stronger than ever. She and her boyfriend have shown me that real love is worth the wait no matter how frustrating or long it can take. If someone truly loves you, they will be there for you and not shut you out. When my dad got sick, she and the next friend I’m going to mention were there for me when a lot of others weren’t. They had both lost people to diseases. These two women taught me what caregiving was and things to do to help others who needed it most. Every day I’m grateful for them.
The last friend that made it to the closest friends list is truly an inspiration to me. She lost her mom several years ago and has been the glue that has kept her family together. She is a canning whiz and can cook you just about anything southern style. She has no problem voicing her opinion and telling you straight. She has no tolerance for games in a relationship and is looking for her mister right but most of the time she has been dating Mr. Man of the Moment. That doesn’t mean she isn’t selective. If you are a liar and a cheat, you better keep moving because she won’t put up with it. She recently underwent surgery for a bariatric procedure and is really doing well. She nicknamed her car “Bessie” and loves to say that she’s a big girl and needs lots of room. The best part is she isn’t afraid to be who she is and I love her for that. She’s honest, open, and a country girl. She doesn’t have time to play nice. She is the true epitome of the south and one of the most down to earth, kind, and open minded people you will ever meet. Just don’t cross her. She may be nice but she knows how to take care of herself.
I have other folks that I do things with but these are the people closest to me. They have been my rock and my sounding board. They have been there in the thick of things and have truly shown me that it’s okay to hurt. It’s actually healthy to have friends that no matter what life throws at you, then you can get up. You can start a new day. You can achieve anything. These folks have practically willed me to stay healthy. They have pushed me to do more with my life than just sit behind a computer. They may not get out there with me and do something like bungee jump, but I guarantee you that they would be among the first to cheer me on and make sure I didn’t break my neck or any other bones for that matter. True friendships make our lives healthier. They balance us and show us that love is unconditional. If you have those kinds of friendships, cherish them. If you don’t, then start building them. I can guarantee you that at some point you will need them just as much if not more than they need you. True friendships don’t keep score. They don’t go off what you can do for them and vice versa. They are there because they want to be. You can’t force someone to like you but you can be yourself. Be true to yourself. Learn to let others in. Accept people for who they are. In the long run, you’ll find yourself to be healthier and happier.
Every day we are affected by senior citizens. They have lived a lifetime of experiences and yet many of them are cast aside. We can learn much from them if we try.
If you are anything like me, you get stressed. It’s a normal, human reaction when the world seems to lay more on our plate than we think… Read more “Stressed? Drop the Baggage, Take the Break”
There is something to be said for reality. Yeah I know. Reality bites. But it’s also one of the greatest teachers we have. Some of us are… Read more “Inspirations”